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I have good news for the overwhelmed moms who feel like they are constantly picking up and the only one responsible for keeping their homes tidy. Here’s how to teach your child to be neat and tidy from a very young age that will not only enhance the peace and tranquility of the home, but will also create an orderly adult in the process. Neat, orderly, and organized adults rarely ‘just happen’.

Many have agreed that the state of our place (home, bedroom,closet) is the state of our mind. Do youfind that to be true for yourself? Isyour home neat, clean, and orderly contributing to a calm peace of mind, or isyour home a cluttered mess, and upon reflection you find your mind to becluttered and stressed? Likewise, if we helpour children have order in their daily routines as well as in theirenvironment, it will eliminate a lot of decision-making stress that they mayotherwise have to push through.

Teaching children to be orderly is important for the outside physical things of their world, but by teaching them to order the physical items of their world, you are also teaching them to mentally order their life. Outside order contributes to interior order and logical thinking.

The Benefits of the Virtue of Orderliness (Neat, Tidy, Organized)

  • Order contributes to the peace of the home.
  • Peace of mind is a consequence of an orderly environment
  • Maintaining order respects the others with whom we live.
  • Teaching order to our children helps them participate in the shared responsibility of keeping the home neat and tidy.
  • Teaching order helps children understand that there’s a place for everything, and everything should be in its place. When they go to look for something, rather than wasting time trying to find it, it should be in its place.

How Do You Teach Your Child to Be Neat and Tidy?

Set the Example –

Ok, first, don’t panic or feel like you’ll never be able to teach your children order because you struggle with order yourself. That said, there’s always room to up our game in the order department. Children don’t expect us to be perfect, so don’t worry that you have disorder in your home sometimes. If you are trying to create order, the children will see that and will know that it is a goal for the home.

Set Expectations –

So often we forget that children need to be taught skills, habits, routines. You’ll need to clearly articulate your expectations of how they keep their toys/clothes/room orderly by showing them, and helping them establish the routine. And you’ll need to show/help them many times.

Learning a virtue (a good habit) is like learning a new musical instrument. You have to practice every day before you get good at it.

Teach with Affection –

I’m convinced that when I taught in the schools, the children were receptive to me and performed well because I genuinely cared for them. Although I had to correct them sometimes, most of the time I was encouraging them, praising them and rewarding them for their efforts and a job well done.

Remember you are your children’s first teacher. We sometimes need to remind ourselves that we should be tender yet firm, kind while being demanding with our own children. Teaching with affection produces results so much faster and longer lasting than nagging and yelling.

Now, I’m not living in a bubble, and my kids at home will tell you that I lost my patience plenty of times as they were older, but nothing attracts like fun and encouragement – so encourage rather than complain or nag. And NO BRIBES! The reward should be a job well done, and maybe a surprise treat occasionally.

Teach by Doing Together-

I’ll never forget the day I asked my mom if I could help herempty the dishwasher. I couldn’t have beenmore than 8 and of course she was happy to show me how! It was a great way to demonstrate that 1. Youhad to do it carefully so that nothing was broken, and 2. Everything had a place.

Here are some ways you can work together with your small children to teach them order:

  • Empty the dishwasher together
  • Put away the utensils – they love to stack the forks with the forks, spoons, with spoons etc..make a game out of it
  • Fold the washcloths
  • Put away the laundry – socks, underwear
  • Sort their toys with them into bins putting like things together.

Keeping it real – There were a few times when I told one or more of my 5 teenage sons that if they didn’t pick up and clean their room, I would throw everything in garbage bags and pitch. They knew I was serious.

One time, I did pick up everything and put it all into garbage bags. They had to do additional chores to get the items back – one by one. It was a great lesson!

Three Important Areas to Teach Your Children to be Neat and Tidy

Order in Habits
  • Help them develop routines. Check out this post and the download for age appropriate routines and habits your child can and should do.
    • Morning Routines – make bed immediately, breakfast, brush teeth, get dressed, put pjs away
    • Middle of the Day Routines – pick up before lunch, nap time/quiet time
    • Dinner Routines – everything picked up, set the table, don’t eat until mom sits down, everyone clears their plates and helps clean up.
    • Nighttime Routines – pick up, get ready for bed, brush teeth, read for set time, prayers, bed with no getting up afterwards
    • Room Cleaning Routines – Saturday cleaning day- change sheets (littles can do this!), dust, vacuum, throw away garbage, put everything in its place
Order in Possessions
  • Have just what they need or play with and remove the rest. Don’t have too many things in their room or you set them up to fail. Too many things – whether it’s clothes, toys or both, overwhelm children. They’ll spend all their time cleaning up and organizing their things rather than using them properly.
  • Be vigilant about decluttering toys. ONLY keep out what they actually play with. Store other toys and rotate them out. If you find they never play with a particular toy, give it away. Help grandparents by offering suggestions of toys you think they’ll enjoy for gifts. As a grandparent, I don’t want to waste my money. I’d rather buy something you think they’ll love than something I hope they’ll love. And in the end, if they don’t play with it, either keep it for other children or donate to a good cause.

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  • With 7 children, we were always on a tight budget. That was actually very helpful, because I only purchased what they really needed. No fashion prizes in our family, but they had clean clothes and not so many that they were a mess in their rooms.
    • Clothes- 1 pr tennis shoes, 1 pr. church (dress) shoes, 2 church outfits, 2 prs. jeans, 2 prs. other play pants, 5 shirts, 1 sweatshirt, 1 spring/fall coat, 1 winter coat, 8-10 prs. underwear, 8 prs. socks -all the same style, 2 prs. pjs.
  • Drawers/shelves designated for certain clothes. They should return to that drawer (i.e. underwear/sock drawer, pants drawer, shirts drawer or baskets in the closet)
  • Every room has its own laundry basket.
Order in Time
  • Help them finish activity when necessary.
    • Give them 5-minute warnings for the next event and stick to it. Help the little ones clean up.
    • Mealtimes in our home was 20 minutes except dinner which was as long as our family needed. If you didn’t finish in that time and spent your time talking or wasting time, a warning was given, then food was promptly taken away. I promise, they won’t starve.
  • Encourage them be responsible with time
    • Don’t let them start something new five minutes before dinner, or 10 minutes before bedtime.
    • If a friend calls to play with them, but they already began a task that needed to be completed, help them say, “I can’t play right now”.
    • Teach them from early on that just because they want to do something now, doesn’t mean they can or should.
  • Homework schedule
    • Let them have some run around time after school and snack, but have a clear time on the clock every day when they regroup and come back to do homework with enough time before dinner.
  • School project schedule
    • When they get older, teach them the habit of preparing in advance for deadlines. Don’t let them wait until the night before to begin a paper or project. Show them how to look at the calendar deadline, then back it up for the days needed to finish the project two days before the deadline. There will always be last minute adjustments and that couple of days leeway will give you the time needed.

Teach Your Child to Be Neat and Tidy

So many moms are overwhelmed with the care and order of their home. A big part of the problem is that we have too much stuff making it hard to keep order. Check this post on how to declutter. But in addition, we as moms, have taken on the full responsibility to keep the home clean.

Everyone, from our husbands down to the smallest walking child, can and should participate in keeping the home neat and orderly. It’s a matter of justice that everyone feels that responsibility, and it also helps our children develop a sound sense of order – creating a firm foundation upon which many other virtues can be developed.

Have a great week!

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Being a woman is a hard, yet beautiful thing. Here are 5 lessons I think that all moms should pass on to their daughters.

One thing that I believe is 100% true is that people who know who they are better equipped to handle the curve balls life throws at us much better than people who lack a strong sense of self. People who know who they know what they like and what they dislike. They know their strengths and their weaknesses. They know what they want in life and what they are unwilling to tolerate. They know the type of people that bring out the best in them and the ones who they should avoid.

While this may seem like an abstract thing, there are some very concrete ways to do it. For example, you could sit them down with a pencil and paper and have them answer questions like:

What traits do you value in yourself and others?

What makes you feel happy?

What are your biggest pet peeves?

What do you want to be known in your community for?

Another important lesson is to love yourself as you are – flaws and all. This isn’t to say that you can’t want to improve or grow. I believe that we should all strive to become better versions ourselves. However, we should all have a level of self-love that allows us to be confident that we are powerful, beautiful, full of potential, and worthy of respect. If you know and believe these things, there isn’t much that can break you down. A great way to help your daughter develop self-love is to have her write down all of her positive traits. You can help her get started by telling her all of the reasons you think she is an amazing human being. You can also take every opportunity available to remind her of her awesomeness.

As we navigate through life, it can be so easy to compromise who we are and what we want – especially where it concerns other people I know that I have made the mistake of doing things I didn’t really want to do in order to fit in, please others, or make a relationship work. It never ends well, though, does it? We need to teach our daughters that it’s ok to be different, to want different things, and that it I possible to find people who will accept us as we are. One way to teach them this is to promote tolerance and acceptance of others. If we are willing to accept others for who and how they are, it serves as the best example that others can accept US as we are. Remind your daughters at every opportunity that true happiness can be found when you stay true to who you are and what you want. It’s not always easy, but it is worth it. Let them know that if they ever struggle with this, you are there to help them.

I don’t know about you, but I know several women who struggle with this one. Many of us have a tendency to want to see the best in people – which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Being able to see the good in people (and in situations) can be an admirable quality – but not if it means ignoring the negative things that can have a big impact on your life. That’s why I think it is important to teach our daughters how to be positive, but also be realistic. If someone reveals something about themselves that is not positive (whether through their words or their actions), teach your daughters to assume that that is how they really are (rather than trying to justify or explain their behavior). Then encourage them to behave accordingly. I think that this skill (I call it a skill because it doesn’t come naturally to everyone) could save people a lot of stress and time spent dealing with toxic people and situations.

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Teach your daughters to always go for exactly what they want. It is so easy to settle for “good enough”. But if you look at your “good enough” and find yourself wanting more, there is absolutely nothing wrong with working towards something bigger and better. It doesn’t make you selfish, ungrateful, high maintenance, needy, greedy, self-entitled, bossy, difficult, demanding, a diva, full of yourself, or any of the other negative terms you get thrown around. It simply makes you someone who is committed to having a full life and that is not something to be ashamed of.

This is a big one and is one that women seem to forget as we get older (especially when we become moms and wives). Self-care is not something that you should only do when you have the spare time. It is something you should make time for on a regular basis. It includes things like exercise and eating healthy, but also includes doing things for emotional health, such as having a hobby, meditating, journaling, and having an active social life. Teach your daughters that engaging in self-care activities on a regular basis is not being selfish – it’s being healthy. Teach them while they are young so that they will not forget when they are older (because that is when we REALLY need it).

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I think it is also important to teach our daughters that we don’t have to be “Superwoman’. As women, we have a tendency to want to handle ‘all the things’. To be everything to everyone. To do everything on our own. Teach your daughters that it is ok to have items left unchecked on their daily to-do list and that it is 100% ok (and smart) to delegate. Trying to be Superwoman is more likely to end with stress than happiness.

So often, girls and women shrink into ourselves around others. We allow others to speak over us or to speak for us. We stay quiet on things that bother us because we don’t want to make a fuss. Teach your daughters to use their voices and to use them well. Speak up for yourself. Speak out against things that weigh on your spirit and mind. Be assertive, regardless of who you are speaking to. Never let someone intimidate you into being quiet when you have something to say.

I know that it can be scary to have this talk with our daughters, but it is an important one. Teach them that their bodies are theirs and that no one has the right to do with it anything that your daughter does not want them to do. Teach them that it is THEIR right to say yes or no and that they should never be made to feel ashamed or wrong for whatever that decision is. Also teach them to use their voice to speak up if someone violates their right to say no and who they should speak to about it (the appropriate authorities, you, a friend, etc).

I know a lot of women who say that they only hang out with men because “men are less complicated”, “women are too complex”, or “women are too dramatic/catty”. Personally, I think that it is sad that so many of us feel this way. Although, I will admit that I have had relationships with other women that didn’t turn out so great, I feel like that applies just as much to relationships with men. I’ve also had high-quality, enriching relationships with other women that I value a great deal. These relationships have helped me to grow into a better person. They have provided me with countless hours of laughter and joy. These women have been there for me during the highs and the lows, providing me with listening ears, words of encouragement, and sometimes words of tough love that I really needed. Teach your daughters that friendships with other women can be deep, meaningful, and important.